What if Valentine’s day wasn’t just for romantic love? That
would definitely change the way it’s marketed in our society. I believe that
Valentine’s day should be about those we love whether it’s romantic or
non-romantic. Parents, children, friends, everyone in our life who loves us
should be celebrated by us on this day. It is human to want to be loved and
know that you are loved. However, the romantic part of this day can be
accompanied with a lot of pressure.
Anxious thoughts come over us like a wave such as what to
get, what to do, will it be reciprocated, will I get something……. It is always
best to be true to yourself. Rejection is part of the process, however; when we
are celebrating those who love us the risk of rejection is removed. If you
choose to take a risk with someone new in your life try to eliminate all
expectations. Trust me, you will be much happier no matter what the outcome.
And if the romantic component of this holiday is missing for you this year,
celebrate your family, give them a gift expressing your love for them.
One more thing, don’t forget about those who are still
struggling with this day in our community as this day is also a reminder of
what was lost. If we can love our neighbors a little more intentionally around
this time of the year, it may help those who are hurting. A wave, a smile, a knowing glance could all
be expressions of kindness and forms of love.
Rachel Rowitt, Ed.D., LMHC, CAP | Grace Counseling, Inc.
